{"id":1185080,"date":"2026-01-21T11:51:00","date_gmt":"2026-01-21T16:51:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/?p=1185080"},"modified":"2026-01-15T10:54:16","modified_gmt":"2026-01-15T15:54:16","slug":"date-someone-who-doesnt-need-you-but-chooses-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/heidi-priebe\/2026\/01\/date-someone-who-doesnt-need-you-but-chooses-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Date Someone Who Doesn&#8217;t Need You (But Chooses You)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Date a girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she\u2019s already happy with herself. She\u2019s the one with a tightly packed schedule and a life overflowing with love. She\u2019s the girl you find it tricky to meet up with but who gives herself fully once she\u2019s there. She listens fully when you speak. She answers promptly when you call. She does not waste your time playing petty games because she knows where her priorities lie. She doesn\u2019t need you to complete or fulfill her. She\u2019s simply looking for a partner in crime.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Date a girl who puts herself first. She\u2019s the one who knows that two halves do not make a whole and that nobody can fill in for what she\u2019s not. She admits that she is still a work in progress and she fully understands that you are too. She\u2019s the girl who\u2019s always working on herself because she doesn\u2019t want to be loved to completion \u2013 she knows she has to make herself whole.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Date a girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she\u2019s already comfortable alone. She will not turn to you for constant reassurance and she doesn\u2019t need to go fishing for compliments. She values your opinion but she doesn\u2019t require it. She wants your advice but she doesn\u2019t always take it. She listens to your thoughts but she does not mistake them for her own because she already knows who she is and what she stands for. When you date a girl who thinks independently, you\u2019ll learn from one another in ways you never thought to expect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Date a girl who doesn\u2019t need you, because she\u2019s not afraid to ask for help. She values all the ways in which you\u2019re different and she doesn\u2019t need to prove things out of spite. She likes that you are strong in some of the places where she\u2019s weak. She likes that she is brave in some of the places where you\u2019re scared. She knows that you can help out one another without it bleeding into co-dependency, so she leans on you whenever she needs to. And she lets you lean on her too. Date the girl who knows how to trust you, because she learned to trust herself first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Date the girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she\u2019s the girl who will inspire you to aim higher. To go further. To take risks you\u2019ve been too afraid to take because you weren\u2019t sure if they were something that you were capable of. She\u2019s the girl who doesn\u2019t pit her own successes against yours and who will be the first to clap for you when you win. You should date the girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she understands that you need to go after what you want \u2013 and that happiness comes on your own terms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Date a girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she is the one who\u2019ll be the best to you. She\u2019s the one who\u2019ll try for you, who\u2019ll go the extra mile for you, who\u2019ll put in the effort to understand you at your best and at your worst. She won\u2019t let jealousy or bitterness become her. She will not hold grudges that don\u2019t need to be held. She does not ask you to be more than you are or than you\u2019ve promised because she loves you for exactly who you are. And she wants you to love her that way too.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Date a girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she\u2019s going to want you like nobody else. She\u2019s going to show you a love that doesn\u2019t ask, does not demand, does not beg you to be changed or revised. She\u2019s going to want you with unforeseen strength and she\u2019ll entice you with incredible passion. Date a girl who does not need you because nobody else is going to love you quite the way that she does. And it\u2019s the kind of love that\u2019s damn well worth waiting for.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Date a girl who doesn\u2019t need you because she\u2019s already comfortable alone.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":114678431,"featured_media":1185083,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"thoughtcatalog_call_to_action":"","tc_post_redirect":"","thoughtcatalog_is_sponsored_content":"0","footnotes":""},"categories":[603229912],"tags":[],"anchortext":[],"posttemplate":[],"adcampaign":[],"coauthors":[219077519],"class_list":["post-1185080","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/priscilla-du-preez-8UEuVWA-Tk-unsplash-1.jpg","author_meta":null,"photo_credit":null,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1185080","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/114678431"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1185080"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1185080\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1185084,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1185080\/revisions\/1185084"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1185083"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1185080"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1185080"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1185080"},{"taxonomy":"anchortext","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/anchortext?post=1185080"},{"taxonomy":"posttemplate","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posttemplate?post=1185080"},{"taxonomy":"adcampaign","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/adcampaign?post=1185080"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=1185080"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}