{"id":1185119,"date":"2026-01-23T08:36:00","date_gmt":"2026-01-23T13:36:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/?p=1185119"},"modified":"2026-01-15T14:39:11","modified_gmt":"2026-01-15T19:39:11","slug":"5-concrete-signs-their-love-for-you-is-authentic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/holly-riordan\/2026\/01\/5-concrete-signs-their-love-for-you-is-authentic\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Concrete Signs Their Love For You Is Authentic"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You don\u2019t want to end up dating someone who cares more about the general concept of being in a relationship than about being in love with you<\/em> specifically. You don\u2019t want to feel like they would settle<\/a> for anyone, and you just happened to be the first person they found. Here are the signs their love for you is authentic:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They treat you the same in private as they do in public.<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Their love isn\u2019t performative. They aren\u2019t treating you like royalty in front of friends and family, but then hounding you when you\u2019re in a room alone together. They show you the same type of love and respect when you\u2019re one-on-one as when you\u2019re in a group of people. Their behavior doesn\u2019t change drastically because their feelings for you are authentic. They aren\u2019t putting on a show. They are expressing their genuine emotions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They speak from the heart instead of telling you what they think<\/em> you want to hear.<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

They aren\u2019t going to give you empty apologies when they mess up so that the problem gets swept under the rug. They are going to tell you exactly how they\u2019re feeling and explain where they were coming from. They are going to speak from the heart, and even though they might not always say the right thing, they are saying the most authentic thing. They are trying their best to be real with you.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They show you they love you in little ways, not only through grand gestures.<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

They shouldn\u2019t be waiting until holidays to shower you with affection and declare their undying love for you. They should be showing you that they care every single day, whether it\u2019s through their actions or their words \u2013 or both<\/em>. Their love is authentic if it is consistent<\/a>. If they are able to treat you the same every single day, through good times and bad, through ups and downs, through happiness and sadness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They see you as an actual, flawed person without putting you on a pedestal.<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t want your person to have the wrong impression about you. You don\u2019t want them to be in love with the idealized version of you that they\u2019re picturing in their head. You want them to be in love with the real you, flaws and all. You want them to understand your truth. You want them to see you for you. Then you know their feelings for you are real, not imagined or forced.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They are more invested in how your dates go than how it looks on social media.<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s nothing wrong with wanting a nice picture to post on their feed, but they shouldn\u2019t be more concerned with making it look like you\u2019re having a good time together and making it look like you\u2019re deeply in love<\/a> than actually making sure you’re having a good time and are treating each other well. They should enjoy making you happy, even when the rest of the world won\u2019t be able to see it, even when only the two of you will know that it happened.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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